How Enneagram Changed my Life and Can Empower You 

I used to feel I couldn’t get “no satisfaction.”
My hypercritical head would constantly pick apart whatever was in front of me to find things to fix or improve. What a torment, to walk around constantly criticizing everything inside and outside of me, and to carry the weight of the world because I felt personally responsible to fix it all. (Like every bit of roadside trash? Yup.)

These inner pressures ran my life but I was not conscious of them. They ran in the background, hidden from me.

Fifteen years ago the Enneagram showed me that most people think differently than I do.
I used to feel that anybody in their right mind would do as I do. (Don’t we all assume so?)
What a mind-blower to see nine unique approaches to life. (“Enne” means nine.)
What an eye-opener to realize I make my own trouble (as we all do in our special way).
What a breakthrough to know people are just being themselves, not trying to “get my goat.”
What a gift to shift from “that person is a jerk” to “they have a curious outlook.”

The Arizona Enneagram Association (AEA) has supported my journey all the way. From the first workshop to the many follow-on classes, we dug deeply into our instinctive behaviors and unfolded ourselves into more acceptance and inner peace. I soon became a member of the AEA, because this material is like a rocket ship to true stability and happiness, and I want to share it.

Yes, enneagram work is that transformative.
It literally changed my life, my family, my work, my reality. I found more love for self and others, more tolerance, more relaxation, better relationships, better health, not high blood pressure, not clenching my jaw anymore, not cracking teeth, not simmering and exploding like a volcano so much.

How wondrous, how empowering to know that I make my own suffering.
My head still talks like a perfectionist, a zealot, but not so fiercely.
I am wise to it, and that makes all the difference.
Even though perfectionism keeps biting me in the butt, at least I can see it (with the enne-eyes in the back of my head).

Nowadays I can shrug and say, “There I go again, making my own trouble.”
It is okay. In an odd way I see my trouble as just part of the circus.
I’m enjoying the whole circus of everybody.
I get mo’ satisfaction.

You can too.
Relax into your life.
Enjoy your circle of people, no matter how aggravating.
Understand who you are beyond the tight cage of your habit-of-mind.
Break free.

The Arizona Enneagram Association is hosting:
Friday Nov 9th from 6 to 9 pm “Tour of the Nine Types” (a class by itself or as part of the weekend)

Workshop November 10-11 with great speaker, writer and teacher Russ Hudson, in
Awakening to Our True Minds: Nine Ways of Knowing and Experiencing Reality.”

Location: Parish Hall at 4015 E Lincoln Drive, Paradise Valley, AZ 85253
Christ Church of the Ascension (CCA) Episcopal Church 

I’ll see you there!

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Wake Up, Give it Up, Love is Now

Can you imagine how much energy we waste in resisting unliked people, things, situations, politicians, cultural groups, all the rabble-rousers?

Can you imagine how much it costs us to engage in our inner snarls, grumps, snappy comebacks (that finally pop into our heads at 2am and keep us awake)?

Can you imagine how resistance to any thing depletes us, on the spot?

Our biofield energy literally clamps down and shrinks with any negative emotion.
Sure, it’s only human to feel what we feel, and it IS important to release our trauma and nurture ourselves. This is vital for our wellbeing.

But when we get into a loop of constant resistance and grumbling and separating ourselves from whomever we dislike, then we are devouring our own energy.
Our own thoughts eat us up even when “those people” are a thousand miles away.

Enfeebling cortisol floods our body. Stress hormones rule.
The more we dwell on what we don’t like, the weaker we become.
Stress rages and damages us because we are resisting life as it is.
What if we could allow life to be itself?

“Pushing against” depletes us.
Our grump, our fussiness drains our energy.
We affect others, exhausting our family, friends, neighborhood, our place.
Vibrationally, we debilitate the earth itself.
We do.

Resistance does not serve us. Not anymore.

The only thing that can heal us and heal our planet is for each of us to relax, release, and surrender into the natural ever-present power of love.

“Ever-present?” You grimace. “Hell, that’s not true – open your eyes and see the chaos, you silly Hufflepuff.”

I reply, “You’re looking at a chaotic illusion which we keep perpetuating with our pent-up unconscious behaviors. Each of us can get conscious (meditate), and when we do, we know the underlying Reality is that Love and Light (biophotons) feed every freaking thing on this planet, including you, including dense rocks and the dense people you despise.”

Give it up.
Give it up.
Give up resistance.
It feels so good to let it go.
Let go into the bigger picture of harmony.
Better feelings then bubble up, expand our biofield energy, and nourish us a thousand ways.
The better we feel, the better we feel (as Abraham-Hicks says).

Turn toward allowing and appreciating the suchness of what-is.
Nothing else will work for us in these difficult times.
We are growing up into broad view.

Love is what we are made of, at our core.
Love is ever present.
Love and Light pour into you with every breath, if you allow this.

In your next uptight moment, give it a breath and let go of that tightness.
Give it a whirl.
You don’t have to be a Hufflepuff.
Everybody breathes.
Everybody carries light.

Pass it on.

Thanks to Dr. Peebles for his persistent phrase, “You are Love. That is Who you Are.”

Narrow View and Broad View

Diane does healing for your biofield and gives you practical ways to enhance your energy system and your overall health.  Make an appointment in Phoenix or Fountain Hills. Inquire about our weekly healing class, Tuesday evenings in Phoenix.
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Why You Feel Better, Stronger, Terrific Without Dairy

Oh, Dairy!
We love dairy, from yogurt to cheese to ice cream!
Creamy, soft, chewy, comforting.
It seems to love us like Mama did.
However.
With lactose intolerance, we get
belly pain and cramps,
bloating,
gas,
nausea,
diarrhea.

After the age of five, most humans (75% of us) no longer produce enough lactase enzyme to properly digest the lactose in milk products. This mature change in digestion is also true of most mammals.
That’s Mother Nature for you.
“Lactose intolerant” is sort of natural for grownups of most species.

The lactose-intolerant population is roughly:
15% in Scandinavia and northern Europe
30% in Europe, Russia, Australia
45% in North America
60% to 80% in Central America, Middle East, India, South America, Africa
Up to 100% in Asia, China, Indonesia, southern half of Africa

Then again some of us adapt to keep consuming dairy for years after we are weaned.
(That doesn’t mean it’s good for us – stay tuned.)

The dairy industry campaigns to keep us on dairy, claiming it has health benefits.
But the fact of the matter is,

+Milk does not make athletes run faster nor perform better.
+Dairy does not strengthen bones. It actually increases the risk of fractures.
+The lowest rates of osteoporosis are found in dairy-free Asia and Africa.
+Dairy increases the risk of prostate cancer and heart disease.
+Dairy worsens irritable bowel (IBS).
+Dairy can generate sinus congestion.
+Taking lactase enzyme supplements might not be the brightest thing to do.

If you have a heavy dairy habit and you give it up, you might feel:
more energy,
fewer headaches,
less mucus,
a more comfortable tummy.
And less weight.

But how will I get my calcium?
Green vegetables like broccoli, leafy greens, sesame tahini, many other sources. (And calcium is now mistakenly added to various foods – not that we need tons of calcium.)

Calcium is just one of many minerals in the bones, anyhow.
You want lots of minerals, a good balance of healthy foods.

Most of us grow too calcified as we age, resulting in stiff arteries, stiff heart valves, congestive heart failure, bone spurs, stenosis, and kidney stones.

If you get too much calcium, as many of us do, it causes your magnesium to drop lower. The two minerals directly affect each other. (See Stop Calcium Pills.)

Low magnesium may lead to:
anxiety,
depression,
insomnia,
fatigue,
poor appetite, nausea,
muscle cramps, twitches,
leg cramps at night or anytime.

Some studies say 90% of us are deficient in magnesium.
Our typical intake of sugar, soft drinks, caffeine, processed foods, and a lack of greens all deplete magnesium.
Stress depletes magnesium.
(There you go. We all deal with stress.)

For your good health,
1) reduce your high-calcium dairy intake and
2) eat more magnesium: lots of green vegetables, leafy greens, beans, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, quinoa, wheat germ, and whole grains. Magnesium supplements are a great idea.
(Many greens contain both calcium and magnesium in healthy balance with each other.)

You don’t have to totally stop every ounce of this creamy dairy.
Just don’t overdo it.
Make it an occasional treat.
Eat more veggies.
Or not.
It’s your body.
(Gosh. We know that yummy cheese stick in your purse is calling you. At least put some celery sticks in there so you have a choice.  …Yes, okay, you found me out, I’m putting cream in my tea. We gotta live a little.)

Tell us, what are your favorite veggie options in the spur of the moment?

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Diane does health coaching, energy healing, and gives you practical ways to enhance your health.  Make an appointment in Phoenix or Fountain Hills. Inquire about our weekly healing class, Tuesday evenings in Phoenix.
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Quick Odd Story on Survival

Lord, have Mercy:
Mercy spent all of two days just trying to breathe, her ribs aching, her flesh exhausted.

Then Dr. Dumas came in to say he was out of tricks.

Tricks are for kids, she would have replied, but had no air to speak.
The foggy bag of her oxygen mask ballooned with each breath.

Mercy stared with liquid eyes at Dumas.
Her daughter Jessica reached for her hand.

Dumas said, “If we put the breathing tube down your throat again, you won’t recover like you did before. Your lungs have reached the point where they’re just too stiff.”

“So . . . so,” she gasped, trying to clarify the matter.

“So if we put you on the respirator, you’ll be on it the rest of your life, however long that may be.”

“Don’t want that.”

“Neither would I,” he agreed, and walked out to set the paperwork in motion.

Tears streamed down Jessica’s face as she leaned into the bed to hug Mercy’s shoulders. “Oh, Mom, I’m so sorry.”

“Don’t be. Not your fault.”

The next time Jessica left the room, Mercy managed to pull off her oxygen mask. Bells dinged.
The nurse strapped the mask on again.

“No. No point,” said Mercy. “Rid of it.”

“Honest to God?” said the nurse.

“Yeah.”

“I’ll have to get an order to leave it off.”

Mercy watched her go, the little pawn. Get an order. It’s my order.
Who was in charge, anyway?
Her lungs sucked rapidly with a life of their own. She drowsed.
She dreamed of every person who had ever touched her.

At sunset Jessica stroked her arm. “How about a little supper, Mom?”

“No. Why –
am I –
still here?”

“Maybe you’re better than Dr. Dumas thought. Want some ice cream?”

Mercy’s arms and legs felt like long lumps of nothing. She waited to lose more. She prayed. A little. Just in case it might matter on the other end.

Some time past midnight the night nurse aimed a strong flashlight at Mercy’s eyes and pulled up her lids.
Mercy shook her head. She wanted to cry. “Still here?” she pleaded.

“Of course. I’ll be here all night,” said the nurse.

Mercy stewed awhile, then drifted.
As the hours passed, her midsection grew numb.
The double-beat tempo of her lungs quickened.

The sun rose, and Mercy cursed the light.
Tiny dust motes sparkled in the air. She remembered her first sight of sunlit motes, cascading beyond the bars of her crib.

“Why. Am I. Still here?” she asked Dr. Dumas.

He shrugged and patted her hand. “Patience. Don’t give up.”

 

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(Written by D.Stallings ©2003. Many Thanks to my dear friend Carol K. who rescued this one from oblivion.)
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Best Natural Relief for Tendon Pain, Yes

How about that freaking tendonitis, exquisite tendon pain? It can strike near any joint in your body. This week it cropped up for several  friends and myself, so let’s talk about this.

It happens more often for the over- 40 crowd because our tendon-nurturing collagen production slows as we age.
But anybody can get it, as I did at age 21 when I suddenly strapped on a heavy backpack and carried it everyday on an adventure trip, stressing my Achilles tendons so my heels  screamed with every step for a month.

Yes, repetitive stress on any joint, from fingers to toes, from tennis elbow to jumper’s knee, can bring on an inflamed tendon. Which as we know is exquisitely painful. The area can be stiff, super-tender, sensitive, hurts more when you move it.

How to stop tendonitis?
Calm down the inflammation, boost your collagen, lubricate that tendon, and more.

  1. Lubricate the whole body with excellent hydration. Drink half your body weight in ounces each day. Drink Celtic salt water! Don’t let yourself to walk around dehydrated. Don’t let your cells wither into prunes.
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  2. Rest the painful body part if you can. Avoid using it. You can wear a splint or a thick bandage to keep that joint from moving too much, for awhile.
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  3. Ice packs reduce pain and swelling by constricting the blood vessels. Use ice 20 minutes at a time, especially with the first onset of pain. (For inflammation on the sole of the foot you can roll a frozen water bottle underneath your foot.)
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  4. Heat: if the painful tendon has already been with you for a while, use heat packs.
    Heat increases blood flow to help the healing.
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  5. Hot Castor oil packs placed on the  painful area  for 15-20 minutes  bring great relief  and remove inflammation. (Prep takes 5 minutes! All you need is castor oil, an old metal spoon, cotton balls, and a candle – see how to do it.)
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  6. Curcumin is the anti-inflammatory substance in Tumeric. You can take either of these supplements to reduce the pain.
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  7. Yucca juice extract clears inflammation from the whole body, makes your joints happy.
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  8. Omega-3 fish oil reduces inflammation and speeds healing. (Fish oil also thins the blood.)
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  9. MSM is anti-inflammatory and reduces muscular pain – try 1000 mg three times a day.
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  10. Vitamin C boosts collagen to keep tendons strong and happy. Try 500 mg three times a day, or use a time-release Vitamin C.
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  11. Serrapeptase (10mg to 50 mg) breaks down extraneous fibrin, scar tissue, and mucus in injured tendons and throughout the body. But it is a blood thinner, be aware. (Take on an empty stomach as directed.)
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  12. Wintergreen essential oil – combine it with jojoba oil or another carrier oil, and rub it into the painful area. (Also consider peppermint, lavender, or helichrysm oils.)
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  13. More topicals to rub into the painful tendon: Arnica gel or cream, DMSO (70%), or Renu 28 gel.
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  14. Epsom salt baths, full of relaxing Magnesium, can soothe tendonitis. Use 2 lb (32 oz) or more Epsom salt in a hot hot-water bath. (To soak just a hand or foot in a pot, use a cup of Epsom salt in very hot water for good absorption.)
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  15. Watch what you put in your mouth! Avoid too much alcohol, caffeine, sugar, carbs, fried foods, all of which promote inflammation.
    Eat more vegetables, greens, berries and vitamin C fruits, foods high in potassium and magnesium such as avocados, white beans, pumpkin seeds, Swiss chard, quinoa.
    Pineapple is high in anti-inflammatory Bromelain.
    Bone broth is restorative.
    Healthy proteins are important to repair all body tissues including tendons.
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  16. Your tendon might be out of place and pulling in unnatural directions. If you suspect this, look into Biomechanical Restructuring, an alignment method that puts your ligaments and tendons back where they belong. Invented by Valerie Revering.

Lots of options! Try what you like, and let us know how it goes.

Have you had tendonitis?
What worked for you?
Can you send us another suggestion not mentioned here?

Diane does hands on healing for your biofield and gives you practical ways to enhance your energy system and your overall health.  Make an appointment in Phoenix or Fountain Hills. Inquire about our weekly healing class, Tuesday evenings in Phoenix.
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Don’t Work Hard to Cheer Up a Loved One

You may know that I enjoy listening to Dr. James Martin Peebles.
The other day I heard a teaching from years ago – bingo! Just what I needed.
Deepest thanks to the wonderful woman who brought up this topic. (Unnamed here, and her words have been paraphrased, but the doc’s words are as he spoke them, in quotes. This is posted with permission from Summer Bacon, who channeled the conversation.)

Question: What is our responsibility to our loved ones who are gloomy and depressed and rely on us to lighten them up? Sometimes this seems okay and sometimes their heaviness becomes a burden. They want us to cheer them up. They’re not taking responsibility for their own attitude. Where should we draw the line? How much responsibility we should take for their attitude? Or should we give ourselves in service?

“There is a fine line here. To be of service does not mean to become something for someone to fill the gaps in their life. You see? The reason he keeps looking to you for his joy is because you keep allowing him to do it.”

Yes, if I keep doing it he does not learn to find his own way. But it seems like it’s my responsibility to do it.

“It is not your responsibility, my dear. In truth here, listen very carefully to us.
“Your life is a demonstration. Live your life as a demonstration. Stop trying to alter or change yourself to be of service. Be of service by being true to yourself first. Give of your heart.

“When he is in despair and he is annoying you, and you are trying to do a project, or you are on the telephone and he is vying for your attention like a child, it is then that you say, ‘Excuse me but I’m very busy right now. And I understand something’s going on with you, but I’m not ready to hear it, nor can I help you right now. I am very busy with my own work.’

“That is not in-compassionate. That is your truth.
“Because if you get up and you walk away from what it is that you are doing that is bringing you joy in that given moment, that is important to you, that is freeing for your spirit – suddenly my dear you get up out of the chair to go attend to his business and you are encumbered, weakened, despondent, frustrated. It builds anger. It builds, my dear, a desire to die.
“And this is not, my dear, what it means to be of service. Service does not mean, my dear, that you lay yourself down at someone’s feet and allow them to wipe the mud off on you.

“It means, my dear, being true to yourself.
“And you can be very compassionate and say, ‘I’m very busy right now. But as soon as I can, in about an hour, maybe a week, maybe two years, I will take the time to sit and listen to what you have to complain about. Go for it.’

“You see? You understand the difference, my dear?”

Okay, but then I worry that I am not meeting him or not supporting our bond.

“You cannot put constraints upon intimacy, first and foremost.
“Here is what happens.
“Once you free your spirit to do and be what you want to do and be, and you are living, speaking, breathing, and demonstrating your truth with the world, then my dear, your desire, your true desire for intimacy, for touch, for affection, will come to the surface as well.

“It is a need of every single solitary person upon this planet Earth.
“The desire, the quest for love is why you are here.
“The desire to touch and to be touched is why you are here.

“And so my dear, as you allow more of your truth to surface, suddenly you will find that you walk past your husband, and you say, ‘Hello, I just love you, I’ve got to tickle you under the chin and kiss your neck and bite your ears. I can’t help myself, it’s my truth, it’s bubbling to the surface.’

“And it’s real. And it’s not, my dear, contrived anymore. Do you understand?”

I understand that it has been contrived because I’ve been mustering the effort to cheer him up just because he wants me to.

“Precisely. Now you’re going to do it from a true place within you. And life will become, if you will, more satisfying.
“Love will become more satisfying.

“Love-making will become more satisfying.

“It won’t be contrived.

“Doing anything my dear, when it is contrived is not of service to mankind. It kills you. God bless you indeed.”

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(Many thanks to Dr. Peebles and Summer Bacon for all they do. This image of Dr. Peebles is from their Facebook page.)
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How to Get True Healing – Unlock the Root Cause

Have you noticed how life speaks to us through our symptoms?
Sometimes the message is obvious. (My foot hurts and I don’t want to “take the next step.”)
Sometimes it’s not so obvious. (What’s up with my sore teeth?)
Sometimes I reach for Louise Hay’s 1982 classic, Heal Your Body, which presents the meaning behind a symptom and offers affirmations to relieve it.
Have you played with this book?
(Hmm – Teeth are about decisions, she says?)

How many of us (like me) jump right into the affirmation without thinking twice?
And it does not bring relief.
After all these decades it finally hit me: I need to think twice.

I need to find out why I am holding onto the issue before I can truly release it. (Louise does point this out in her opening pages, but I skipped over that in 1982.)

My body has a good reason for expressing this pain, this resistance.
A root cause sits underneath this problem, and I must face it.
What is my body telling me?

  1. Why do I “need” this problem?
  2. How is my personal opinion or belief causing trouble here?
  3. Can I release my misguided “need” for this problem?
  4. Can I forgive myself and forgive others on this topic?
  5. Does this problem/symptom give benefits that I like? (Sick days feel good, in a way.)

My dear teeth, are you feeling indecisive?
(Sheesh, I don’t know how Louise comes up with this, but let’s investigate.)
Am I facing uncomfortable decisions?
Yeah, maybe – there are so many unknowns and so many conflicting opinions in life.
Which decisions are bugging me? (Play the Jeopardy music while I ponder.)

Who told me I had to be decisive? (My inner critic and/or an authority in the distant past.)
Do I believe I must know everything, decide everything? (Yup.)
Am I pressuring myself? (Yup.)

Hey! My root cause just dawned on me:
I “need” to choose the one best decision.

I believe there’s only one best choice, and I’m afraid I’ll mess it up.
I gotta get it right, or else!
Or else what??
Or else nothing.
No big deal.
Hey, I don’t have to pressure myself with this silly belief in perfect decisions!
What if I make a bad decision? Is that the end of the world?
What’s the worst that could happen?
Mistakes help us grow, right?
Heck, let’s make some bad choices just to loosen up!

Now that I pulled out the root cause of this belief in “perfect rightness of decisions,” I can see more clearly. I can release it.
The problem will begin to wither without its root.

Next – my affirmation for my decisions/teeth.
Louise Hay handed me a line, but I wanted something personal so I made this one up:
I release “one right way” thinking, and I make choices that feel good to me.
I can’t get it wrong – there’s always another option.

And you say, “Gee Diane, why don’t you just ask your dentist about this?”
Well, there is that.
But the spirit infuses the body, and my mental habits affect my body.
The dentist heals from the outside in (with chemicals and such).
I want to heal from the inside out.
Because human life is an inside job.

How about your symptom?
What root cause is revealed for you?

Want another quick example?
My “need” for my headache is that I need everything to be perfect and be under my control.
That need is unattainable.
I struggle against reality and unwittingly squeeze my scalp muscles like a vice around my head. It hurts.

When I see what I’m doing, I feel silly.
Look where my views have brought me.
I squeezed my head only because I disagreed with “what-is” in the world.
I’ve been making trouble for myself.

Do I want this pain to continue, or can I release it and forgive it?
It all boils down to forgiving and releasing.

I forgive myself for being uptight and craving control.
I forgive another person for messing up my “perfect” plans.
I forgive the world for being in whatever shape it’s in.

Does any of this work for you? Are we onto something? Do tell.

 

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