It’s no secret, but we tend to forget: we can focus our own attention, to lighten up, to see the Happy in our own life.
Yet we typically forget to choose our focus.
The mind is a dictator, unwilling to detach.
Our attention sticks to the difficult, worrisome, dangerous, messy, painful, unfair, uncontrollable, heart-aching, confusing, negative things.
The mind tries to resolve the issue, so we hone in deeper, stiff-necked and determined, without realizing our focus is making us miserable.
We just do it. We keep bench-pressing our burden.
It’s a mental habit. We may not even notice its control over us, unless we can step back from the mind.
Meditation strengthens our Inner Observer so we can see what’s happening in our head.
Thank goodness the mind can go to only one place at a time.
So: break the troubling focus and send your attention to anything that feels better.
I snag myself on my backache.
The more I think about my backache, the worse it becomes.
If get distracted with something else, the pain ebbs for a little while.
Then I bend funny, and the pain zings once again, bidding for attention.
I tell myself to be careful, be rigid, keep the pain away, resist it.
But in doing that, I’m constantly listening to it.
My very attention to the pain and innate resistance to it makes it larger.
Larger not only inside my mind, but in my back, where it hurts.
I begin to believe my whole body is pain.
But no, many body parts feel fine.
If I ponder my good-feeling parts, my mind-focus will enlarge pleasant feelings.
(Same thing happens with my focus on all the bad news everywhere.)
Can I take a moment to breathe deeply and appreciate life?
Thank my lungs for breathing, thank my heart for beating and feeling, thank my feet for supporting me so well, thank my capable hands for working efficiently.
Can I find something to appreciate in the moment?
The interesting leaves on the tree outside my window?
The pleasant people in my life?
The fact that I can move, in whatever way I can?
The sun shining and infusing all?
The energy, oxygen, and ease in this one full breath of air?
The more we ramp up our appreciation, the happier we become.
Placing our attention on appreciation is our biggest tool for happiness.
Do a gratitude list. And keep adding to it, telling yourself all your many blessings.
Make a focus wheel. Here’s one I like to browse at bedtime, to shift to appreciation. It sets a good-feeling vibration for the night and next day. (Grab your colorful markers and make your own 😉
(For extra ideas see Make a Focus Wheel to Cheer You Up)
Much of this piece was posted here in 2015, but I keep needing reminders . . .
Diane Stallings RN does distance healing, EFT tapping, and/or Biofield Tuning on the phone, energy healing sessions, Chakra Balancing, and health coaching. She gives you practical ways to lift your wellbeing. Make an appointment in Phoenix or Fountain Hills.