Nothing personal, but have you read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz?
Can you say what you mean and mean what you say?
Trust yourself when everybody doubts you?
Be immune to praise or blame?
Ruiz offers basic tenets for integrity and courage, if we can live them.
That’s the tricky part, right?
“I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it.” –Alice in Wonderland
We know it’s not easy.
But we take aim. We might fall. We stand up again and give it a go.
We’re amazing, we humans.
Don Miguel Ruiz gave us a great read.
Here are the cliff notes.
How bold are you? Have you tried any of these? How’d it go for you?
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
(Thanks to Flickr for this pic, now modified.)